“You’re Teaching It Wrong” — What It Means When Your Child Blames You Instead of Trying

Are you tired of feeling like you’re failing your child? Do you find yourself wondering why they’re not trying hard enough, or if they’re just being lazy? You’re not alone. Many parents are given flawed advice when their child blames them for teaching methods instead of trying, such as ignoring the behavior, punishing the child for disrespect, or waiting for them to “outgrow” their learning struggles. But what if this approach is not only ineffective but also neglects the complex, multi-system nature of learning struggles?

The truth is, learning differences are not solely the result of phonological deficits or other single-cause explanations. Recent research in neuroplasticity and multi-system causation reveals that learning struggles are the culmination of various processing gaps across different domains, including auditory, visual, kinesthetic, spatial, and emotional. By recognizing the shame-defense pattern in older kids as a sign of unaddressed processing gaps and low self-efficacy, parents can take proactive steps to provide the necessary support and guidance.

This article will boldly challenge the conventional wisdom on learning struggles by highlighting the science of neuroplasticity and the multi-system causation of learning differences. We’ll explain how the common advice to ignore, punish, or wait out the problem not only fails to address the root causes of learning struggles but also ignores the child’s emotional and psychological well-being. Instead, we’ll empower parents with the knowledge that they can be the primary agents of change in their child’s learning journey.

Understanding the Root Cause of Learning Struggles

When a child blames their parents for their learning struggles, it’s often a sign of deeper, unaddressed processing gaps. The common advice to ignore the behavior, punish the child for disrespect, or wait for them to “outgrow” their learning struggles is not only ineffective but also neglects the complex, multi-system nature of learning struggles. At Learning Success, we recognize that learning differences are not solely the result of phonological deficits or other single-cause explanations, but rather the culmination of various processing gaps across different domains, including auditory, visual, kinesthetic, spatial, and emotional.

Our approach is grounded in the latest research on neuroplasticity and multi-system causation, which reveals that learning struggles can be addressed and improved upon through targeted, multi-system practice. By identifying and addressing the underlying processing gaps, parents can help their child build a strong foundation for learning and develop the skills and confidence they need to succeed. For example, a child who struggles with reading may benefit from visual processing exercises that help them develop their ability to recognize and manipulate visual information.

The Importance of Parental Involvement

Parental involvement is critical in helping children overcome learning struggles. By working closely with their child and providing targeted support, parents can help their child develop the skills and confidence they need to succeed. At Learning Success, we empower parents with the knowledge and tools they need to support their child’s learning, including auditory processing exercises and visual tracking activities. By taking an active role in their child’s learning, parents can help their child build a strong foundation for academic success and develop a lifelong love of learning.

Furthermore, our All Access Program provides parents with a comprehensive system for supporting their child’s learning, including access to a range of programs and resources that address different learning domains. By working together with their child and using our proven system, parents can help their child overcome learning struggles and achieve their full potential.

Building Confidence and Resilience

Building confidence and resilience is essential for children who struggle with learning. By focusing on effort-based praise and celebrating small wins, parents can help their child develop a growth mindset and build their confidence. At Learning Success, we believe that every child has the potential to succeed, and that with the right support and guidance, they can overcome any obstacle. Our Growth Mindset course provides parents with the tools and strategies they need to help their child develop a positive and resilient mindset.

In addition to building confidence and resilience, it’s also important to address the emotional foundation of learning struggles. Children who struggle with learning often experience feelings of shame, anxiety, and frustration, which can make it difficult for them to engage with learning. By providing a safe and supportive learning environment, parents can help their child feel more comfortable and confident, and reduce the emotional barriers that may be hindering their progress. Our Emotional Intelligence course provides parents with the tools and strategies they need to support their child’s emotional development and help them build a strong foundation for learning.

Conclusion

In conclusion, learning struggles are complex and multifaceted, and require a comprehensive and multi-system approach to address. By identifying and addressing the underlying processing gaps, providing targeted support, and building confidence and resilience, parents can help their child overcome learning struggles and achieve their full potential. At Learning Success, we are committed to providing parents with the knowledge, tools, and support they need to help their child succeed, and we believe that every child has the potential to thrive with the right approach. For more information on how to support your child’s learning, visit our website at https://learningsuccess.ai.