Foundations
Most programs hand you exercises for your child. This one trains the person who delivers them. Six skills from a martial-arts training hall, practiced at your own kitchen table, one week at a time.
Part of All Access. Eight short videos for you, narrated by Laura Lurns, with Shun Shifu Phil and Shifu Liz.
The exercises were fine. Your child was reading you.
You’ve tried the programs. Some of them were good. They still went flat at the table, because before a single word is spoken, a child has already scanned the person sitting down beside them: the tight shoulders, the sigh as the book opens. That isn’t a failing. You’re anxious because you love your child. But to a child, “scared for me” and “scared of what I am” feel the same, and both feel like something is wrong with me. Foundations starts there, with you, so that everything you hand your child afterwards lands on different ground.
Built in a training hall, confirmed later by research
Shun Shifu Phil and Shifu Liz trained daily for decades under a grand master. When a local principal started sending them every child the school had given up on, those children began to succeed, in the training hall and then at home and at school. People called it magic. It was a set of skills. It took Phil and Liz years to name them, and the research to describe each one arrived long after they were using it. This course is those skills, named, in order.
Your drill produces your child’s exercise
You never get “homework about yourself” separate from “exercises for my child.” The exercise with your child is how your new skill gets delivered.
One short video
The story behind the skill, one line of the science, and Phil or Liz showing it at a kitchen table.
One drill for you
Small and concrete: sixty seconds at the doorway, three catches a day, one storm for one week.
One exercise with your child
A question at the doorway, a list of what they’re good at, a reset signal they choose themselves.
Six skills, and the week that ties them together
Narrated by Laura Lurns, with Shun Shifu Phil and Shifu Liz demonstrating each skill.
- 0Before the ScienceThe origin story, the folded paper and the Proof Box
- 1The StanceYour state comes first
- 2Certainty Without ProofDeciding your child is capable, before the evidence
- 3The ChunkSteps so small failure is nearly impossible
- 4Catching the GoodTraining your eye for the tiniest real effort
- 5Starving the StormWhere attention goes, behavior grows
- 6Fast ForgivenessHigh standards, instant repair
- 7The Black Belt WeekAll six, integrated, for life
A folded paper and a box
In Module 0 you write down two stories exactly: the one your child believes about themselves, and the one you believe about yourself as their teacher. Then you fold the paper and put it away. The same day you start the Proof Box: a real box, in sight, where evidence of your child’s effort goes. No ceremony. In the last week you open both, in that order.
Instructor training, for you
It isn’t another program for your child, and it isn’t therapy. You’re not broken, and you’re not being remediated. You’re a white belt stepping onto the floor of a real discipline. Each module carries one line of the research that later described what Phil and Liz were doing: emotional contagion, expectation effects, shaping, attention and behavior, repair. The drills are where the change happens.
You won’t be asked to believe you’ve changed. A few weeks in, you’ll catch yourself already changed.
Who it’s for
Parents of a child who finds learning hard, at any age, and any parent who has watched a good program go flat at the kitchen table. Parent-only: your child never watches a video.
Where it fits
Inside All Access, first. The courses that follow, such as Number Sense At Home, build on the Stance you learn here. Your Learning Roadmap puts them in order for you.
Foundations
Step onto the floor
Included in All Access, with every other course and program in it.
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